One of the things that I notice as a wedding filmmaker is when a bride is nervous or upset during the bridal prep. Most times it’s just nerves but other times it could be because they’re simply introverted. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy hanging with a crowd or being the center of attention, it simply means that the way we recharge is by being by ourselves.
Today, I want to share with you some bridal tips on overcoming being a natural introvert for your wedding day. (I should know because I too an introvert)
Small Guest Lists
One of the best things you can do if you’re an introverted bride (or groom) is to have a small wedding guest list.
I’m going to let you in a major secret regarding wedding guests here so pay attention.
Having a small guest list will help minimize the stress of being an introvert and it will help keep your head cool too. Having say 45 people instead of 145 will make a world of difference in the stress and it will also help you to open-up during your wedding day.
Now, for the secret, the less wedding guests you will have, the less your wedding is going to cost.
For example, if you have 100 wedding guests and the catering is going to coat say $20 a head, that’s $2,000. Well having 35 guests plus the wedding party (45 total) is going to cost you $5-600 total. It’s a small savings but it adds up once you buy wedding cake, and of course, the venue, booze, transportation, etc.
Have a Bridesmaid to Manage Your Day
One thing that you can always do is have one of your bridesmaids be a point person for the day. Someone that helps manage the day and is a go-to between you, the vendors and staff. Think of appointing that person as a buffer if you will and most vendors will not take offense to it either.
They can deal with family, wedding prep, help with the wedding coordination and much more. You will still need to be involved with wedding vendors but having a point person will help that stress level and it will help provide that added “alone-time” needed for the wedding so you can charge up for it!
Skip the Speeches
If you don’t like being the center of attention, simply skip the speeches at the wedding reception, no one will fault you for that. Listen, there is no right way or wrong way to have a wedding, many couples skip select things during the wedding and some even create new traditions too. For example, if you don’t know how to dance, then just have an introduction and skip the first dance. Maybe you don’t want to do the garter, hey, it’s your wedding so skip it if you feel the need.
Make sure that everything planned in advance as you don’t want to make those decisions on-the-fly, that makes us vendors hard to adjust to the evening if we’re planned for something then at the last minute we have to skip to something else.
Take 15 Minutes to Yourself
Once you’re dressed and everything in ready to go, just take 15 minutes to yourself. Just have everyone leave the bridal suite or prep area and take 10-15 minutes to yourself. Relax, reflect and just chill out. That’s one of the best things you can do and I see it all the time.
Many times, as I go about with the wedding photographer to gather shots of the couple for the feature film, I can tell when they just need sometimes to themselves without any cameras shoved in their face.
And that goes a LONG way. At the end of the photo session and after I gathered the video clips that I need for the film, I will tell the couple to take 10 minutes up in the bridal suite by themselves. TRUST me when I say it makes a huge difference for the rest of the evening. Those that are introverts truly appreciate the little “breaks” throughout the evening and it helps them focus.
Focus on Your Spouse
Perhaps the best piece of advice I can recommend to an introverted person is to focus on the other person, besides taking those little breaks throughout the wedding day. Being able to focus on your new spouse will give you great joy and it will enable to stay out in the crowd a bit longer too. Also, if you see that your spouse is having a great time with dancing or just whatever, join them.
Yes, it honestly might not be your cup of tea and if might not be something you normally do, but your new spouse should know that and encourage you to just be you. Spending a few minutes being out of your element is hard but well worth the effort and your spouse will truly see that you’re trying something new and out of your element.
I myself and a natural introvert and before I meet with clients I take bit of time to myself and go over things and just well, relax. The same applies when I go to film weddings, I usually take the morning of and prep for the day by myself. That helps me focus on the day and what I need to accomplish so when I’m at the wedding I can be the best that I can be.
Well, I hope that you found these tips helpful and thanks once again for reading the blog! Be sure to check out my wedding film deal this month and lock in your professional wedding video!