“Letter Writing for the Feature Film”

Hi friends!

I wanted to give you some tips and ideas about writing a letter to your new love, for the feature film.

Here are some recommendations that I often tell people to think about when writing it. You will want to have it written and sent to me about a month before the wedding.

Share your feelings

Start off your wedding letter by sharing how you’re feeling at that moment, emphasizing the excitement you’re probably feeling about becoming your beloved’s husband or wife in just a few short hours. Are you feeling overjoyed? Emotional? Even if you’re not the type of person to wear your emotions on your sleeve, now is the time to spill.

Praise your partner

Take a few moments to talk about what you love about your future spouse. Is it their kindness and sense of humor? Their loyalty to family and friends? Feel free to use personal anecdotes to make your point. Here's a sample of what to include in that letter to your bride or groom on the wedding day, “I love how you always protect me—even if it’s from a spider while I’m in the shower!” or “You’ve been my rock during difficult times and I am so grateful to you for that.”

Tell a story

If you’re feeling stumped, think of a single story that really sums up your future spouse’s best qualities. Was it the time he drove three hours to help you dig your car out of the snow? Or the time she sat by your sick grandmother’s bedside and read to her for an afternoon? Think about the moments that really defined you as a couple—and take this opportunity to show your appreciation.

Talk about the future

Your wedding day is not only about celebrating your past, but also about looking forward to an incredible future together. In the wedding letter to your bride or groom, talk about the things you’re looking forward to in both the short term (your wedding and honeymoon!) and the long term (buying a house, starting a family, traveling together, etc.).

Don’t be afraid to be cheesy

You’re talking about the love of your life here, so this is the time to use a bit of flowery language and lots of lovey-dovey words, even if it’s not usually your style. You can end the wedding letter with a sweet “I can’t wait to start our life together” or “See you at the end of the aisle!” — a little sappy, but certainly meaningful and sweet.

It’s a letter, not a school paper

Don’t worry too much about spelling and grammar. If you make a mistake in your wedding letter, don’t feel like you have to start the whole thing over again — just cross it out and keep writing. Your almost-spouse will love your note the same way he/she loves you — flaws and all.

Keep it short and sweet

Try to keep your wedding letter to about a page to a page and a half, if possible. Time will be of the essence on your wedding day, and you don’t want to spend hours reading it on camera.

Finally, I will bring copies of the letters with me so you don’t have to worry about it. I will typically pull you aside for about 10 -15 minutes and have you read the letter twice on camera.